If your problem is to be understood metaphorical the answer might be: don’t cry - someone else will, probably nine month later. But that’s not what I meant. A typical reaction is to blame someone else. Especially, when others are around. Typically, it’s even someone you believe in. Your god, parents, siblings or your companion. So, if you are the one blamed for someone else’s mistakes you’re allowed to feel honored.
It’s worse when you know it’s your own fault. Cause, let’s be honest, where is the fun in being stupid? On the other hand, there is some fun in that. This expression makes even more sense when you know that my case is about a dislocated arm. Alright, we’ve come to the realisation phase and know it has been our own mistake. So, how do we work it out? Now, don’t say: with the other arm, I didn’t mean that.
One of the most important things is to learn to live with wrong decisions. You have different ways to do that. One would be to regret these decisions and try to memorise them each time you have to make comparable decisions again. Another one is to deny any responsibility and blame your life or other unimportant ghosts you believe in for all times. Anyway, my favourite one is to regret nothing at all. Enjoy every pain and flaw and make the best out of it. That’s really hard and hurts a lot, but there’s no better feeling than the knowledge of being infallible.
Who said it wasn’t our plan to wipe out ourselves at all?
March 17, 2008
Every time we don’t take a risk, we lose almost automatically. With the refusal of chances we hinder ourselves in our own further development. Security is one of the greatest enemies of evolution. This would fully support various trial and error methods. And it’s a good thing. Most times, there is more to gain than to lose. Of course, it doesn’t really make sense to jump into some dark well just to find out what’s down there. Get a rope and climb down. Remember the lyrics and sing. Look at the environment, find the reasons and talk. Don’t get too drunk and dance. Be the proof of the fact that there is only one thing that really matters. (It’s not alcohol!) It’s about this one feeling. Ah! I got it! I did it! Happiness! Don’t be afraid. If you fail - but even if you don’t, change something and try again or try something else.
Experience life! Experience is your life. Stop to learn and you’ll stop to live. Don’t live by trophies, cause that’s living in the past. Don’t pile up money. That’s living for a tomorrow that will be different in every way you could possible imagine. To live freely you have to let go of your cage. A cage built out of imaginary securities of a society of fools. A society driven by fear to stagnation. Your life is out there - everywhere. So, stop reading and turn the world around.
If you fail, enjoy it to the fullest!
February 7, 2008
One of the most interesting feelings in our life might be the ‘let go’ feeling. It’s the one you might sense when you’re on a train, travelling against the sun and leaving your home. It’s also there when you’re saying goodbye at the grave of a loved one and finally realise that the end of someone special is another chance for you at the same time.
It’s having a tearful eye while the other one is smiling. Depending on your thoughts of looking forward and your troubles with the process of letting go, it may seem easier one time whereas it can seem almost impossible at another time. Memorising persons or places is an important ability. We shouldn’t forget the bad things that happened in order to prevent the repeating of things that didn’t have the outcome we wanted. Nevertheless, we should always try to keep the good things in mind as well. We have to treasure these memories of joy as they are our mental achievements.
Every break-up means the destruction of existing connections and pain as a consequence thereof. At the same time, if we are able to use these open connections, we can gain a lot of new experiences. In such situations it is essential to look forward to new possibilities and not to find only grief and despair in the past. Don’t loose yourself in thoughts about things you can’t change anymore.
Get a seat in direction of travel or you might get sick!
January 20, 2008
Do you know this feeling, when you tell someone you trust about something and exactly that something is used against you later? It’s like giving someone your appendix cause it hurts, and being hung by it afterwards. You get the point. The problem is, usually we have a lot of troubles and one hell of a headache. Talking about these pains is like giving away apples while you’re in a container full of them and they’re multiplying themselves by your thoughts about them. An apple a day keeps sanity away. And it’s wrong to think that you can make your troubles disappear by eating them. All you get is a full stomach, stomach pain, eating disorders, complexes, a crazy companion and a stupid goldfish.
Anyway, the problem is neither an apple nor some person. It’s your headache. ‘Nehmen Sie die Menschen, wie sie sind, andere gibt’s nicht‘ said Konrad Adenauer and what he probably meant was that we won’t make people fit our needs. Well, we pretend you are the exception if your profession is to cut people into halves to pack them into neat boxes.
Regardless of the common lack for the recognition of our own stupidity, we may at least count on our irrationality with a certainty of 98 percent. Two percent are discrepancy and the times when you grab a new condom with manufacturing fault. The truth is, we should not only accept others as they are, but also ourselves.
Life gets simple not until you put yourself into a wooden box!
January 15, 2008
