Life-changing things that don’t matter

Every time we don’t take a risk, we lose almost automatically. With the refusal of chances we hinder ourselves in our own further development. Security is one of the greatest enemies of evolution. This would fully support various trial and error methods. And it’s a good thing. Most times, there is more to gain than to lose. Of course, it doesn’t really make sense to jump into some dark well just to find out what’s down there. Get a rope and climb down. Remember the lyrics and sing. Look at the environment, find the reasons and talk. Don’t get too drunk and dance. Be the proof of the fact that there is only one thing that really matters. (It’s not alcohol!) It’s about this one feeling. Ah! I got it! I did it! Happiness! Don’t be afraid. If you fail - but even if you don’t, change something and try again or try something else.

Experience life! Experience is your life. Stop to learn and you’ll stop to live. Don’t live by trophies, cause that’s living in the past. Don’t pile up money. That’s living for a tomorrow that will be different in every way you could possible imagine. To live freely you have to let go of your cage. A cage built out of imaginary securities of a society of fools. A society driven by fear to stagnation. Your life is out there - everywhere. So, stop reading and turn the world around.
If you fail, enjoy it to the fullest!

One of the most interesting feelings in our life might be the ‘let go’ feeling. It’s the one you might sense when you’re on a train, travelling against the sun and leaving your home. It’s also there when you’re saying goodbye at the grave of a loved one and finally realise that the end of someone special is another chance for you at the same time.
It’s having a tearful eye while the other one is smiling. Depending on your thoughts of looking forward and your troubles with the process of letting go, it may seem easier one time whereas it can seem almost impossible at another time. Memorising persons or places is an important ability. We shouldn’t forget the bad things that happened in order to prevent the repeating of things that didn’t have the outcome we wanted. Nevertheless, we should always try to keep the good things in mind as well. We have to treasure these memories of joy as they are our mental achievements.

Every break-up means the destruction of existing connections and pain as a consequence thereof. At the same time, if we are able to use these open connections, we can gain a lot of new experiences. In such situations it is essential to look forward to new possibilities and not to find only grief and despair in the past. Don’t loose yourself in thoughts about things you can’t change anymore.
Get a seat in direction of travel or you might get sick!

As time goes by so do our beliefs. Things change even at the single second we look at them. Therefore it’s hard to keep your trust in specific processes or life itself. Of course, that doesn’t mean we have to suffer from our own inability for finding valid beliefs. It just means that we have to accept changes and try to grow with them. If we manage to adapt ourselves well enough we may gain happiness by flexibility.
Nietzsche said ‘Wer viel Freude hat, muß ein guter Mensch sein: aber vielleicht ist er nicht der klügste, obwohl er gerade das erreicht, was der Klügste mit aller seiner Klugheit erstrebt‘. Thus, it’s not the truth that makes us happy, but our own trust in something.

From that, we may derive our greatest fear. It’s about the events that leave us unable to trust our own senses - the fear of being wrong. With that knowledge we may be able to overcome one of our greatest problems: the freezing in thoughts that prevents us from acting. The problems don’t lie in our present, they are written down in the memories from our past and the imagination of our future.
With these things in mind we may conclude that our flexibility can be our strength. In order to get rid of some of our fears we have to clear up things for ourselves and within our minds.
Darkness exists from where we come from, darkness is where we are going to, the only light we keep within our hearts, is the trust we have on things we know.
One might also say: it does not matter where we come from - it does not matter where we go to - the only thing that matters is the action that we make.
You always have to cross the street to look at your own way!

Nowadays, TV series show us one thing: knowledge is the key to success. If it’s House MD to demonstrate others their deficiencies by being himself almost infallible, or Shawn Spencer whose remarkable memory abilities give him an unnatural psychic impression, or even Dexter Morgan who uses his intelligence to commit murder for some kind of justifiable justice. All of these examples show us fictive people making the impression of being normal with certain abilities that let them appear to be special. There are also the extremes like Heroes which add a bit more fiction and thus wouldn’t quite work in reality. But, maybe they are just good at hiding it.
Anyway, there is a problem arising with such series which seem pretty natural and maybe possible in our imagination. Mostly, they leave us just two options: either we admit to be stupid and can’t do what their starlets can, or everybody else is cause ..you know I can read minds - can’t you? That’s probably one of the reasons they design most of these series as comedies or at least add some comical aspects. Because, who wants to be even more depressed after sitting half an hour in a sofa watching problems of fictive people?

Let’s go back a minute to the part about knowledge. Everything is about how much you’re able to remember. But isn’t it great to have a mind which can forget things easily? - Wait for the point before you try to forget how useless reading this entry was! Oblivion offers you the ultimate feature to happiness. And I don’t mean to forgive, that’s mostly just a selfish act to have others be grateful.
Only when you’ve learned to forget, you’ve learned what it means to know!

Organisms love patterns. The reason is quite simple. They like to predict behaviour correctly. Obviously, being right has the mentionable advantage of triggering the ejection seat at the right moment or deciding not to fight with two angry jaguars. But besides that, simple patterns are just boring.
However, scientists found out why the hell humans laugh. They analysed jokes and dah, dah,.. The reason we laugh is out of curiosity. Some may also laugh because somebody tickles them. Nevertheless, this means that you can make up a joke by stating something and afterwards just use a line that wouldn’t be predicted easily. So, if we predict something wrong, laughing will release endorphins and still make us happy. It’s only a question of how to explain that to the jaguars.

This reminds me of one of my favourite quotes. ‘Confusion is always the most honest response’ by Marty Indik. (Uh, interesting, my cerebral cortex seems to messed up confusion and curiosity.) However ..now I found out that he also said ‘Half of analysis is anal’. Notice! This second quote is the perfect and short example to the theory of jokes mentioned before. What else did I have to find out? ‘”Non-notable lawyer.” by LrdChaos’ in July 2006. If that isn’t notable?
How trustworthy is the Internet? If you know something about Mr Indik, LrdChaos or July 2006 - tell me, I’m dying to know. Not physically, more on a neurological level.
Statistics reveal: don’t trust statistics!

The last time I talked longer than a minute to someone, I realised something once more. As soon as you realise that you won’t get money, power or sex out of someone’s statements, they might become plain, boring word constructs. So why talk to some mate about anything if he cannot be considered as potential sexual partner, assuming that there are relatively small chances of a nice sister - or brother if you’d prefer, he or she wants to introduce to you.
Once there was Mr Pavlov. I’m not talking about his dog or the book Brave New World, which I regardless would recommend to anybody. Actually, I don’t even want to talk about him at all, but about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. If you can tell me the connection between both psychologists you will be rewarded with one of the cookies I might receive due to my last posting.

The hierarchy of needs is an important concept you have to understand to accept yourself the way you are and to find your own definition of happiness. I don’t say I agree to the whole concept, but it seems like a headstone to many aspects of life. It also eases conducting conversations. If you see someone going to the toilet, one of the lowest needs and thus weightiest, it’s probably the worst possible moment to talk about your own song-writing creativity which would be on top of the hierarchy. For me, the most important lesson to learn is the following: any attempt to satisfy your top need of self-realisation when you lack fulfilment in your lower needs like security, sleep or sexual intimacy, is most likely going to fail.
Make the lowest issue ‘breathing’ your top priority!

November is my personal declared ‘november rain’ month. Everything is grey, or gray if you’re in the United States. Not even the daylight-saving time helps much in that case. So what to do with all this darkness? Some deniers always find the time to celebrate. They start off with crazy costumes and pumpkins and change into their carnival dresses afterwards. A hundred doughnuts later they switch to mulled wine and hot punch and slur ‘evrithinks fein’. Some believers impatiently await next months big birthday party with trees and red clowns wearing beards. But I’m grasping ahead..

Well, not everything is fine. Actually, many things look really bad. That’s something everybody should admit sometimes. No reason to burn your trees, flush your cookies and hang yourself with your Luftschlangen. The thing with the cookies really depends on your baking skills. You may send them to me before you feed your toilet. In case you ask, if my opinion had been requested to transcribe Luftschlange, it would be known as wrangler by now. Not as boring ‘paper streamer’.
Anyway, it is very important that we have sad, sentimental times. Otherwise we forget how this feels, lose sight of our goals and let reality fall apart. We should appreciate rainy days as we do with good times.
Fun is where gravity loses weight!