To let the silence talk

December 7, 2007 at 3:04 pm 3 comments

A fascinating thing about human communication is the variation we can find in personal interpretations even if the message is ever so explicit. One problem may be to find in the broad spectrum of different meanings of many words and expressions. Another, quite important aspect lies within the unsaid statements. The power of the underlying message. Sounds boring? Well, not necessarily. It takes an experienced listener to read between the lines but it needs an extraordinary thinker to speak through the arising silence.
And I’m not even talking about body language yet. It’s just about the breaks between the words. Many things rely on them. You can give someone a really uncomfortable feeling. More importantly, you’re able to build up tension. As I see it, many things are just results of silence. A hug, a kiss, a slap in the face.

But be aware! Tension tries to increase the value of the subsequent information. Good things get better and bad things will feel even worse. In general, breaks are useful. You can think about what to say next or reflect on the last statement. Nevertheless it can be pretty annoying to have a conversation with someone who thinks and speaks much slower than you do. Still, you shouldn’t anticipate words for another person. It makes them look stupid and you like a moron.
Good for some breaks after each sentence would be for example the following quote by Ellen DeGeneres.
“In the beginning there was nothing. God said, ‘Let there be light!’ And there was light. There was still nothing, but you could see it a whole lot better.”


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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. kiki  |  December 12, 2007 at 6:09 am

    i’m still marvelling at these little topics you pumped consistently, where do you get your ideas from?

  • 2. Ray  |  December 13, 2007 at 7:25 am

    I take that as a compliment. For me, life can be sometimes like a little, really old shop with a lot of tiny gadgets and artefacts in it. Everywhere is the exciting chance of discovering something new.
    Though, from time to time I start writing without any clue what to write about. Seems like it has gone well most times.

  • 3. Ray  |  January 18, 2008 at 3:56 pm

    The following quote I just found fits also very well..
    “The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”
    – Dorothy Nevill


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