To know what you want

December 10, 2007 at 8:51 pm 5 comments

How do you make the right decisions about your future? How to decide if you want to study or start working, to start a family or to climb the business ladder, to go abroad or to settle down? Such choices influence probably a period of five to 10 years of your life. When you think about children the commitment lasts even longer. (Even without commitment the monetary issues will hound you!) So shall we write a chart with all positives and negatives or just hand over the steering wheel to our guts?
I think a lot of truth goes down the toilet, so your digestive tracts are pretty good as it comes to the small questions in life. But when it’s about the massive questions, I think you’re doing good in investing as much time as possible to evaluate the various outcomes. Sometimes it’s helpful to ask people you don’t know well. They don’t care much about your feelings, which is the reason they will tell you their opinion for sure most of the time.

Another suggestion is to tell your questions as what they are – just questions, but not as crucial points and the ‘big search for a solution’. Most people couldn’t even imagine the situation you’re actually in, so why bother them with your core issues. Also, why should you bother yourself with hours of answers you could make abstract movies out of nobody would want to watch instead of taking sleeping pills?
yvan eht nioJ!


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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Alina S  |  December 10, 2007 at 11:17 pm

    I’ve always found that the best advice one can give a person is: “think!” How unfortunate that people need to be told that.

  • 2. Ray  |  December 11, 2007 at 12:20 pm

    Personally, I don’t think it’s that easy. Many major questions about our future we can’t simply answer with just relying on our own knowledge and experience.
    It is important that we value the knowledge of other people too. Even if it may seem dependent sometimes. This is what lets us grow within our society.

  • 3. KnotGypsy  |  December 11, 2007 at 5:02 pm

    I like the idea of asking people who don’t know you very well. They are not invested in you life and so provide a more objective view point.

    And, I think there is no “right” answer – you have to ask yourself “What do I want in life?” Taking a year off to kick around and “find yourself” is sometimes the best thing to do. It is not really that much of a time investment as long as you have a goal in mind and you make sure the year does not turn into 5 or 10 years…

    Once you have collected feedback, you just have to decide. Waiting for “all the facts” could cause you to wait most of your life. Then, you won’t get any of those choices.

  • 4. sakuralady  |  December 15, 2007 at 12:57 am

    Usually, I always consider of the long term goal I wanna achieve, for ex. high paid in company A, and lower paid in company B, but in B, lots of more challenges and experiences gain that money can’t measure.. So I’ll choose B.

    On the other hand, I still manually do make the mapping chart of plus points and neg points..

    Thanks for dropping by, I love most of your postings..
    Keep writing ^^

  • 5. Ray  |  December 17, 2007 at 11:46 am

    Thanks for your feedback, sakuralady.
    I for myself decide far to much by improvisation. These may be the most honest decisions made, but they surely keep your adrenalin flowing.


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