How to be objective

February 28, 2008 at 7:16 pm 3 comments

Normally, I’d like to say that there are always two ways: the friendly one and the honest one. Nonetheless, when it comes to be factually there seems to be not so much of a choice. In the sense of communication objectivity can only be achieved by knowing how both, transmitter and receiver, are going to understand a specific message. For humans that is hard indeed, cause there are no strict standards for conversations.
If you just think about some factors like speed, tone, word order, facial expression a lot of possible and different statements can be created even with the same words. As for the message itself, always problematic are for example comparisons, clauses and restrictions. The phrase ‘I like you, but..’ has always a kind of a killer effect. One reason may be that the but-part is the exception to which is usually given more weight.

Another problem shows up when people realise something said might be misunderstood. They switch into defensive mode and that just has to seem like you’re wrong for your conversational counterpart. Even with words less is often more. Skip the unnecessary filler words. Objectivity in the understanding within a group of more than two people would be real luck. You’re sometimes better off by not even trying to find a common communication standard. It takes a lot of time, it’s never guaranteed and most people don’t listen to you anyway.
The answer is: ‘what was the question again’!


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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Murdoque  |  February 29, 2008 at 7:16 am

    … and of course: can you hear yourself thinking?

    As for the organdonationontwhowheelspart, i hope we haven’t hat an communicationsproblem – therefore i suggest to give the needy a real chance to get a part of our valuable innards and take a ride on the 9th of march (wind and weather permitting)…

  • 2. Ray  |  March 4, 2008 at 6:17 pm

    Sometimes I think I can even hear myself leaving – mentally ..ahm, where was I?

    Don’t worry, sometimes I think our communication problems are even an essential part of the whole conversation. Don’t get me wrong now!!

    Anyway, I’d love to hit the road with you, but unfortunately I won’t get my registration plate this week (caused by the lack of my presence in the old hometown). Also, I think it will get pretty cold and a hostile environment even for kick a** people like us.

  • 3. Murdoque  |  March 4, 2008 at 7:48 pm

    So let*s mingle with the culturally interested again this week – where we also fit quite nicely – some guys got it all….
    ahm – i ll ring you – and tremble it will be this week!!!


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