Posts tagged ‘truth’

How to be objective

Normally, I’d like to say that there are always two ways: the friendly one and the honest one. Nonetheless, when it comes to be factually there seems to be not so much of a choice. In the sense of communication objectivity can only be achieved by knowing how both, transmitter and receiver, are going to understand a specific message. For humans that is hard indeed, cause there are no strict standards for conversations.
If you just think about some factors like speed, tone, word order, facial expression a lot of possible and different statements can be created even with the same words. As for the message itself, always problematic are for example comparisons, clauses and restrictions. The phrase ‘I like you, but..’ has always a kind of a killer effect. One reason may be that the but-part is the exception to which is usually given more weight.

Another problem shows up when people realise something said might be misunderstood. They switch into defensive mode and that just has to seem like you’re wrong for your conversational counterpart. Even with words less is often more. Skip the unnecessary filler words. Objectivity in the understanding within a group of more than two people would be real luck. You’re sometimes better off by not even trying to find a common communication standard. It takes a lot of time, it’s never guaranteed and most people don’t listen to you anyway.
The answer is: ‘what was the question again’!

February 28, 2008 at 7:16 pm 3 comments

You are stuck in this world

Do you know this feeling, when you tell someone you trust about something and exactly that something is used against you later? It’s like giving someone your appendix cause it hurts, and being hung by it afterwards. You get the point. The problem is, usually we have a lot of troubles and one hell of a headache. Talking about these pains is like giving away apples while you’re in a container full of them and they’re multiplying themselves by your thoughts about them. An apple a day keeps sanity away. And it’s wrong to think that you can make your troubles disappear by eating them. All you get is a full stomach, stomach pain, eating disorders, complexes, a crazy companion and a stupid goldfish.
Anyway, the problem is neither an apple nor some person. It’s your headache. ‘Nehmen Sie die Menschen, wie sie sind, andere gibt’s nicht‘ said Konrad Adenauer and what he probably meant was that we won’t make people fit our needs. Well, we pretend you are the exception if your profession is to cut people into halves to pack them into neat boxes.

Regardless of the common lack for the recognition of our own stupidity, we may at least count on our irrationality with a certainty of 98 percent. Two percent are discrepancy and the times when you grab a new condom with manufacturing fault. The truth is, we should not only accept others as they are, but also ourselves.
Life gets simple not until you put yourself into a wooden box!

January 15, 2008 at 7:25 pm 1 comment

When the fish stops smelling

You might think it’s bad when fish starts to smell. But it’s usually worse when it stops to. The reason is that we’re used to the odour of ourselves. If something starts to smell, something is wrong ..or you forgot about the biological kitchen waste. When it stops without a reason, like you getting rid of the waste, it means that something happened and you might not realise it because you’re used to the not-smelling of nothing-wrong.
This is where it gets a bit complicated.
The problem is, when something seems right, its most of the time just pretending to be right. Master in this discipline is the modern human. Some even get away by only pretending to be someone else. Actors for example. Some live good by simulating knowledge in time, functions and people. Take some managers. The whole stock market is based on theoretical values.

Whom can you really trust? Maybe shrinks, pretending to know what we’re thinking? This issue goes even deeper. In the end everybody only does what he thinks is best for him. Seems nice if you support freedom of opinion and so on. The troubles start as soon as you want something different as your plumber. So, you pay people to want the same as you do?
Sometimes it’s not the fish that smells!

October 14, 2007 at 4:03 pm Leave a comment

Things that start worse end well

Compare yourself to something worse et voilà you’re the lucky one. If you’re not feeling better already, you’ve probably done something wrong. Maybe there is no-one in a worse situation than you are.
In that case you can be proud that you are the unluckiest guy – number one or at least number 4, cause what’s even unluckier than being not even on the stairhead – challenged person from life, god, or whatever you belief in.
So, you got it. It’s the context that makes things good or bad, humans into heroes or – whatever the opposite profession is.

The interesting thing is, your mouth tastes funny if you drink tea the whole day. Besides, also actions that didn’t have an influence on other people, don’t count for their general view either. For example when you played drums the first fifteen years of your lifetime, it may count for your mother as ‘his wild years’. However, other people you just met would maybe say: nice he plays an instrument.
What lies on the hand is that it needs a personal session of extraterrestrial performance to change their minds into: he plays like the devil fighting against human rights. Nothing can beat frontal first person experience. Anyhow, it’s a bad example, what I mean is that people don’t see what the are not shown.
Never show that both aces you’re hiding are hearts!

October 12, 2007 at 6:24 pm Leave a comment

Things you believe to believe in

So it was not until I chose the wrong 9, that I realised something. Everything might be right, if only you look at it the right way. All makes perfect sense to me now. I mean, if you have the perfect reason to kick somebody’s backside – why shouldn’t you? If you can probably get something precious, why not do a small favour – by kicking somebody’s butt?
And so it goes down to persuade somebody – anybody about their belief in various asserted values. Ah, aren’t we easy to figure out? Well, it’s not all that easy. Since we were gifted with our own vertically challenged point of view, we can merely imagine different ones. Therefore we predict and persuade, we want and we obtain.

The point is, nothing really is for sure. Concluding, the majority is right? No, well, maybe. If most women wear high-heeled shoes, it doesn’t mean that they are comfortable. Also, it doesn’t mean they are foolish suffering for the opposite sex – or the same – who knows these days. Neither, this implies that men are dumb for preferring women with feet-deformation intentions.

Probably, everything we might conclude is that the majority has a good point in the specific belief where they dominate. Anyhow, when the majority thinks arsenic tastes neat, I’d love to be in opposition.
Even even looks odd from one side!

October 3, 2007 at 5:02 pm Leave a comment


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